Spiritual Singles Over 40: Are You Tired of Wasting Time on Nonversations and Dud Dates?

Your mission, should you choose to accept it:

  • Stop doing what you’ve been doing – it’s not getting you what you want, and doing more is only getting more exhausting. You didn’t just get behind the steering wheel at age 16 — you took driver education class! Nobody tells us that dating without discipline can be maddening. Listen, it’s not your fault…
  • Instead of wasting your energy on people who aren’t on your level, learn the Authintimacy method to weed through prospective partners and focus where there’s true potential for what you most desire – the kind of connection, love, laughter, companionship, passion and depth you’ve always wanted. Both groundedness and expansiveness.

The Great Dating Reset: Masterclass on Cultivating Authintimacy for Spiritual Singles Over 40

What You Will Learn

  • How to manage/leverage your time on dating sites and increase your energy ROI (we say: “Relationships Outta Intention”)
  • How to create Zoom dates that rock — ensuring their pictures are current and setting parameters for transparency and consent to build trust
  • How to smoothly have thanks-but-no-thanks conversations instead of ghosting and banking bad karma
  • The latest survey data on midlife dating — it can help to know you’re not the only one regardless of any orientation/preference you may have
  • Language to use in overhauling your dating profile + choosing photos for better reception/alignment (feedback from instructor and others)
  • Practicing with a template to evaluate prospective matches so you ask the right questions (for you) and minimize ghosting
  • Messaging prompts to assess Authintimacy potential with prospective dates
  • The benefits from the new trend of “hardball dating” without it backfiring and losing potential matches 
  • How to stop obsessing about “LTR” (long term relationship) and instead focus on “HQR” (high quality relationship) — why continue any other type of connection?
  • The value of a community of other Singles Over 40 using the Authintimacy method to create HQR, rather than your friends who are already married or those who’ve broken up and are cynical about love.

What’s Included?

  • 6-hour recorded masterclass training to dig into
  • Live Authintimacy workbook/playbook for personalized support
  • Weekly group coaching session Thursday evenings 5:57pm PDT (8:57pm EDT) after the masterclass — participants say this makes the difference for support, shared insights, and accountability for 11 subsequent weeks to effect your Dating Reset.
  • Note: Busy professionals, introverts, and the shy/anxious who prefer 1:1 coaching, we offer a “done with you” Sherpa program (more below).

What is the Investment?

  • Regular Price: $1497  Exclusive price for a limited time: $997 (33% off). Payment plan available through PayPal Later. This program will not be offered at this price again.
  • Whether you value your time or your well-being or your sanity (perhaps all of the above) this course will pay for itself instead of having lousy dates that make you question a “Bad Picker” or even give up on relationships.
  • For the 1:1 “Sherpa” program, please apply here.
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Course Guarantee

  • Though nobody can ensure you’ll find love or dates if you don’t follow through, our Authintimacy method is guaranteed to improve your confidence and experience (which directly correlates with improved results).
  • If you participate fully in the training, make respective changes in your approach/communication/profiles, complete your workbook and dating tracker, and do not agree your dating is better, we will work with you to make it so.

Who is this NOT for?


Persons of any gender/orientation/exclusivity who 

  • prefer misrepresenting their true intentions, manipulating others, etc. (this is not a pickup course)
  • are unwilling to look inside their heart to figure out what lights them up or see their past relationships as the perfect fodder for their next chapter
  • have deep trauma where dating is not yet appropriate (therapy is a better direction)

What People Are Saying…

  • “I joined a Pandemic.Love event about dating hesitancy. I love the innovative thinking that brought that about. The Covid-19 pandemic has changed so many relationships for me, and dating is no exception. I could see from the depth and honesty of our conversation, that the folks in that event are interested in personal and inner work… how refreshing! I appreciated the no-pressure atmosphere that the facilitator established as a baseline. I’m looking forward to the next course or event, and getting to know others at a speed and intensity that makes sense for me.” — Teresa, Bellingham WA
  • “Hey Paul! Just wanted to follow up on the Pandemic.Love program I took part in recently. It felt so good to hear your perspectives on dating hesitancy and then hear from others who have their own doubts around midlife dating. I often feel alone in situations like this, yet in the end there are so many of us experiencing the same feelings. In fact I heard a woman express some of my own thoughts about dating with kids at home! Others surely will benefit from these structured conversations you’re facilitating, thanks so much.” — Sean, rural Vermont
  • “As a 43-year-old woman who’s been single for a decade, the Covid chapter of dating has hit me harder than ever so Paul’s teachings have been helpful.  Especially lately, when my self care and self worth hold such a high regard. Now of course, the medical conversation/crisis this world is involved with is a major factor. A person who can cherish me as much as I cherish them would be ideal in my world. So here we are… navigating this new dating realm in complete knowing of self-worth and self-care. Pandemic.Love offers a great learning experience. I’ve learned to remind myself to NOT be too hard on myself in this process, that I will attract the right person for me at the right divine timing – thank you!” — Heather, Austin TX

Your Guide, Paul Aaron Travis – along with Rotating Guest Hosts of Different Persuasions

  • Paul’s commitment to making dating joyful, respectful, expansive and consensual comes from extensive training in interpersonal relations — from Nonviolent Communication to the Wheel of Consent, from Landmark Education to Human Awareness International, from Body Electric to ISTA/Tantra.
  • For years, Paul co-facilitated the Seattle Men’s Wisdom Council, working with hundreds of men every month. In the years since his divorce, he has dated dozens of women – mostly first dates which didn’t yield sufficient chemistry to continue, as well as creating 3 multi-year relationships.
  • Paul initially studied computer science and was a Type A personality.  Over the years, however, he learned and applied emotional intelligence to his personal relationships which changed how he connected for the better, notably in dating! 
  • After a business career incl. roles as Marketing VP for a publicly traded software co. and President of the Institute of Management Consultants [Seattle Chapter] Paul chose to refocus his energies on training in the love and relationships area.
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FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)

  • Is this another dating service? No, it is a program comprising (1) a training course to become Authintimacy-ready and learn the method and (2) weekly support so you master the method and create what you most want!
  • How can a course and support actually change things? Dating is dating. Consider: what’s the difference between you and Serena Williams or you and LeBron James? A fancy tennis racket or hours shooting hoops? No, it’s the mindset and coaching and strategy and program to (again) create what you most want.

Other Questions?

  • Call or text Paul at 206-222-6229.  No question too small, or too big!
  • If you’ve read this invitation to the end and decided the program is not right for you, you’ll want to get on our mailing list for future events.